Many people ask Is True Happiness Possible?
Others who struggle in life often pooh-pooh the very idea that happiness exists and like to claim that true happiness is not even possible. Happiness can be experienced on different levels in your life. It’s not all euphoria. There are ups and downs that you will experience all throughout life but whether you are happy or not is all about your feelings.
- True happiness is enjoying your own company and living in peace and harmony with your body, mind and soul. True happiness is state of mind constantly being in love with yourself. For being truly happy you neither need other people nor materialistic things. “Happiness is the consequence of personal effort.
Sceptical? Well it’s true. Happiness has been there all along. So why don’t you feel happy? If you look back you can recall times when you were happy, moments and events, even days that bring a smile because you were happy.
No one is happy 100% of the time but you can be happy the majority of the time. How? Well let’s consider our thoughts. Ever heard the phrase “Thoughts are things”. It was a phrase used by Napoleon Hill in his book “Think and Grow Rich” published in 1937. His books are still read by aspiring entrepreneurs today.
But I digress. Since his book the phrase has been used often along with “Our thoughts create our world”.
That’s all very well but how does that affect being happy!
Simply put, your thoughts can get in the way of your happiness because these types of thoughts are focusing on what’s wrong and what’s missing in your life, or the negativity of a situation.
Not Liking People
Many people, especially introverts, tend to focus their decisions on how many people will be around. They tend to make decisions that are not good for them because they are not comfortable being who they are. Turn that thought around to going to events but focusing on how you can give yourself extra care during anxious moments around others.
I Am Too ….
Anytime you start a thought with, I am “too” anything you get into trouble. People often worry about things that no one else ever thinks about although sometimes one might worry about things that other people do think about. For example, if you find yourself saying you’re too fat, too stupid, too something/anything, to accomplish a goal that you have, then you need to turn that around to setting up real steps that will help you to reach your goals.
I’ll Do That When I ….
You’ve probably said it before to yourself. “I’ll do that when I go back to work.” “I’ll do that when I clean the house.” “I’ll do that when I lose weight.” You know the drill. Unless you need to do the thing in the blank, don’t allow that to get in your way. If you do need to do it, just make a step-by-step plan to get it done.
I Can’t Do ….
You may have heard your child, someone else or even yourself say that “I can’t do maths.” Or I can’t cook or something else you or they can’t do. The reality is that no one can do any of that without first learning how to do it.
No one arrives in this world with a complete set of knowledge about anything. Anyone can learn whatever they want to learn with a bit of time and effort.
Saying I Should …
Have you ever heard that it’s important not to “should” all over everyone? Not only is it a bad idea to create “should” for others it’s a terrible idea to create them for yourself. Let’s face it, if you really ‘Should’ have, then you would have.
If I Was More Like Them
Never compare yourself to someone else especially in a negative way. You are unique and perfect in your own special way. No one can do the job of being you as well as YOU can. We are all different with different tastes and interests. While it’s okay to admire someone’s accomplishments, it’s pointless to compare and find yourself lacking in some way.
The Past and the Future
Dwelling constantly on the past and what someone did to you or what things were like in the past is not going to help you overcome self-sabotage now. View the past as a lesson learnt and then move forwards. Don’t use it as an excuse to remain stuck rather than moving forward. You are in charge of yourself and your thoughts so look forward not back.
Just like your focus shouldn’t always be on the past, you also don’t want to be only focused on the future. Each day is what you have and it’s a good time to mainly focus on now. I’m not saying you shouldn’t plan for the future or even reminisce about the past but neither should have your total focus. Your life now should have that.
Whenever you find you’re focused on a negative aspect of any situation, try to turn your mind around to focus on the positives. However, sometimes in life you’re going to experience a sad or negative time, that’s normal. It really is not about the ups and downs of life. Those are natural. It’s about how you comport yourself the rest of the time that truly leads to more happiness.